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Post by elysium on Nov 22, 2003 20:56:04 GMT -5
Your welcome! Yay, I'm not just taking up space anymore!!
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Post by Problem on Nov 26, 2003 22:20:49 GMT -5
I got a problem. we(my family)moved to this really small town where everybody knows each other. its really hard to get accepted. i have no friends at skool. not becoz the kids are mean but we just don't have anything in common. everyone goes fishing,hunting,camping,go to dances and stuff like that. my family doesn't do that stuff(it might help to know we're from a different country-different religion). i dont celebrate any of the christian holidayz either. so ive been going on the internet and reading and doing school work so much lately, it feels like i don have a social life...i talk to people yeah..but i mean like friends when ure completely comfortable with the person. i don't have any siblings either. it feels like i have no life besides internet,reading and school work, it getting really Annoying. the worst part is thinking about my old school(in the city) where i had so many friends:(
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Post by elysium on Nov 27, 2003 14:02:08 GMT -5
For a minute, I thought maybe I sent a problem to myself.... you see, I had the exact same one when I was about 12, isn't that a coincedence? I moved from a relatively small town to a tiny little village where my dad grew up. I had no friends for a whole year. The main reason was because I was...em, a little different than anyone else. Ok, people thought I was weird, plain out. The thing is, most people are uncomfortable about things they are unfamiliar with. So make an effort to find common ground.
If you're a guy, the best way to get friends is sports. Even if you really hate it, beating a guy at something he's good at will get you respect every time. If you're a girl, I'm sorry to say that girls can be pretty bad at accepting new-comers, so it's even harder to make friends. Just remember that you're probably not the only person who's lonely. I remember how I made friends; you see, there was this one kid that was disfigured, and no one would eat lunch with him and they always picked on him. I thought he was weird-looking, but I didn't want to be judgemental so I decided to hang out with him. He turned out to be pretty cool, and after people saw that I didn't have a weird antisocial thing, they were a lot more friendly. The thing is, the other kids don't know that much about you; they grew up together, and you just kinda came along. They're probably a little intimidated because they're afraid you're going to be some stuck-up city snob. You can't expect them to come up and say, "Hi, I'm Joe, need a best friend?" Find some kind of activity to get involved in with other kids and go from there. You see a kid reading HP at lunch, go and ask him what his favorite sequel is. If there's a girl wearing a shirt with a band you like, tell her she has good taste. You'll be amazed at how quickly people open up when you talk about something they like.
Oh yea, and about the small-town thing: I can almost guarantee you'll absolutely love it there within a year. Small towns are awesome, I live in a little village and I love it, now that I know everyone.
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Post by ~*~SONYA~*~ on Nov 27, 2003 21:20:14 GMT -5
THANX !! i'll try!!!
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Post by elysium on Nov 28, 2003 14:08:49 GMT -5
LOL...so much for anonymity (is that a word?? oh well, it it now).
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Post by ~*~SONYA~*~ on Nov 28, 2003 20:04:02 GMT -5
LOL...so much for anonymity (is that a word?? oh well, it it now). i wasn't trying to be anonymous . i was just logged out when i came here and i chose the first thing that came to my mind ;D
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Post by fantasyfan1 on Nov 30, 2003 21:16:21 GMT -5
Alright i don't know if you're in the dream intepretation business, but hey you're worth a try, right? anyway, i've had 4 dreams in five nights (the other one i can't remember lol) anyway, in the first i don't have any friends and all of my old friends hate me and want to do stuff with other ppl. In my second dream, I make out with this guy i barely know in this theater and start talking to my old best friend (who's a slut lol) again after not talking to her for 3 months. In my third dream, I'm an alcoholic and steal wine out of my parents wine rack and spend my life partying. And in the dream last night, I start ditching school even when I know i'm supposed to go, and i see my best guy friend outside ditching with me, so i go to 8th period 30 minutes late, and my teacher says its okay because we're only watching a video.
See these dreams are wacko for me bc i'm a good student and a good kid- i don't drink or makeout w/ random guys... so i don't know whats up... any ideas would help thanks a lot.
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Post by Geek on Dec 1, 2003 0:42:26 GMT -5
I have a problem of the heart With the problem I cannot depart For it deals with the insecurity of those in the minority
I know I am called "geeky" By pretend friends that are freaky So I feel like no one can understand What it feels like to have the underhand
Old friends drift away Those that I depend on move away I am left with no one My point of life: I have none.
Ok so here is the deal. I am a geek. No point denying it. I have limited friends. You could say the only things that I really enjoy in this world is sports, my dog, and this computer. I don't want to be friends with people who have been calling me geek since the 1st grade. I live in town where everything is based on looks. My family is poor so we could not afford good clothing. Then I am a straight A student who doesn't drink or do drugs unlike the two thirds of the rest of my school. So you see why I am called a geek. Every time I go to a camp where people don't know me I make terrific friends. But camps are only in the summer which leaves me with a problem. Trying to fit in would mean changing everything I am. So what do I, a simple guy, do in a world of preps?
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Post by elysium on Dec 1, 2003 17:39:58 GMT -5
Alright i don't know if you're in the dream intepretation business, but hey you're worth a try, right? anyway, i've had 4 dreams in five nights (the other one i can't remember lol) anyway, in the first i don't have any friends and all of my old friends hate me and want to do stuff with other ppl. In my second dream, I make out with this guy i barely know in this theater and start talking to my old best friend (who's a slut lol) again after not talking to her for 3 months. In my third dream, I'm an alcoholic and steal wine out of my parents wine rack and spend my life partying. And in the dream last night, I start ditching school even when I know i'm supposed to go, and i see my best guy friend outside ditching with me, so i go to 8th period 30 minutes late, and my teacher says its okay because we're only watching a video. See these dreams are wacko for me bc i'm a good student and a good kid- i don't drink or makeout w/ random guys... so i don't know whats up... any ideas would help thanks a lot. To be honest, I have correctly interpreted dreams before. It usually works better if I know that person, but I guess I could try. Here's what I think: You tell me you're a pretty "goody two-shoes" type person. In the first dream you feel deserted. That makes it seem to me like you're afraid that your prudentiality is causing you to lose friends. Do you ever feel uncomfortable around your friends because they think you have weird beliefs or morals? It seems like you're afraid they're going to leave you because of them. I think the second and third dreams go together. You're doing things you'd never do in real life, but you still feel weird about it. I believe you're subconciously telling yourself that even if your friends think what you stand for is strange, you should stick to it. If you do things that are unfulfilling, like making out with someone you don't know or drinking, you'll still be unhappy. I also think that maybe your friend is a bit of a representation of yourself. You, a goody two-shoes, were able to finally identify with your wild friend. I'm assuming that this means you should loosen up a bit more, but not without losing sight of your morals. The last dream is the most important. I'd say it means that you feel like you're missing out on life by being so careful, but that if you stay true to yourself then you really won't be missing anything. Ok, I hope that helps. I have a hard time doing this if I don't know the person, but who knows, maybe I'm right.
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Post by elysium on Dec 1, 2003 18:08:07 GMT -5
I have a problem of the heart With the problem I cannot depart For it deals with the insecurity of those in the minority I know I am called "geeky" By pretend friends that are freaky So I feel like no one can understand What it feels like to have the underhand Old friends drift away Those that I depend on move away I am left with no one My point of life: I have none. Ok so here is the deal. I am a geek. No point denying it. I have limited friends. You could say the only things that I really enjoy in this world is sports, my dog, and this computer. I don't want to be friends with people who have been calling me geek since the 1st grade. I live in town where everything is based on looks. My family is poor so we could not afford good clothing. Then I am a straight A student who doesn't drink or do drugs unlike the two thirds of the rest of my school. So you see why I am called a geek. Every time I go to a camp where people don't know me I make terrific friends. But camps are only in the summer which leaves me with a problem. Trying to fit in would mean changing everything I am. So what do I, a simple guy, do in a world of preps? It's sad, but people can be really shallow. There's nothing I hate more than people who base things on looks. I mean, it's the same both ways, just because I used to do some modeling people assume I'm an airhead. The thing is though, as I've said before, people always fear what they do not understand. It's not just a coincedence that people who were made fun of in school end up being successful. Remember that no one gets where they're going unless they have something no one else has. I've found that the school "outcasts" are actually the most interesting people. Need I point out how moronically conforming cliques are? I know this itself is a cliche, but the only way you can be truly happy is to thine ownself be true. I think it's excellent that you haven't stooped to smoking or drinking to be excepted; that takes a lot of courage. And the great thing about small towns are, they aren't the center of the world. So people there don't like you, there's a whole other world of people who will except you for you. I know that kids can be sooo mean, and these years get so lonely, but just remember that they only last until you can leave. With all A's, you're guaranteed to get out of that small town. If it's variety you want, maybe you should try something intellectually challenging. Try writing a book or something, it's pretty time-consuming. In fact, I crave variety so much, I'm going to go to England next year just for something new. Also, I'm sure there must be one non-judgemental person in your school. For more on that, see the making friends advice reply I wrote earlier. Just remember this: If you were like everyone else, I'd hate you
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Post by elysium on Dec 9, 2003 20:02:37 GMT -5
Now I'm getting bored with no problems to solve...don't be shy! Ask Elysium!
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Post by musicchc43 on Dec 10, 2003 16:30:15 GMT -5
Now I'm getting bored with no problems to solve...don't be shy! Ask Elysium! I have a prob....My dog smells REALLLY bad and we wash him all the time...and he makes all my blankets smelly when he sleeps on my bed. Any suggestions on what to do about my smelly dog?
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Post by elysium on Dec 10, 2003 17:15:11 GMT -5
I had to do a little research for this one, but I found the answer! You need to give your dog a bath, and add a few cups of vinegar to the final rinse. This will get rid of the nasty smell and even make his coat shiny!! If that doesn't work, try doing the same thing except with tomato juice. If THAT doesn't work, come back and we'll figure out another way
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Post by musicchc43 on Dec 11, 2003 16:59:58 GMT -5
LOL thanks for spending time to research it! I'll try that next time we wash him ! thanks again.
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Post by elysium on Dec 20, 2003 18:37:42 GMT -5
Actually, I think I could use a little advice from you guys (cuz I suck at giving advice to myself). Ok, so my friend asked me out. He's really nice and all that, but definitely not my type. I mean, I need someone I can talk to about stuff that I'm interested in, and well....he has a hat made out of duck tape So the thing is, it really took me by surprise when he asked me out, since most of the time he barely even understands the words I use. So I panicked an I lied to him. Yes, I lied. And I feel bad. You see, I told him I'm still rather attacthed to my ex, which is bad for a few reasons. #1, I'm waaay over my ex, and I met this new guy that I like loads better. #2, I LIED, which is awful! and #3, won't he figure it out and have his feeling hurt when I start dating someone else?? So do you think what I did was wrong?? Actually, I wonder if anyone actually reads this column who doesn't have a problem....
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