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Post by Ginny Potter on Oct 23, 2003 18:26:02 GMT -5
your advice worked for me!! and Alison was my friend over at my house, she's a big HP fan, so I showed her this site...
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Post by Hermione Potter on Oct 23, 2003 19:30:49 GMT -5
really? i showed this site to my friend, Lizzie, and she will mite sign up for this! Cool!
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Post by elysium on Oct 24, 2003 7:18:00 GMT -5
Good, I'm glad I haven't ruined anyone's life yet.
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Post by elysium on Oct 27, 2003 8:55:18 GMT -5
There is this one girl that i know, and she is, to put matters simply, annoying. Fortunately, she doesn't go to my school, but I see her once a week as an after school activity, and she is way older than me, , and she tags along and follows me everywhere to the pint where it scares me, i just don't trust her, and it is annoying, but i really really really really don't want to hurt her feelings, cuz, i mean, she has a really hard family life, and i am pretty sure she has a disability, from what she tells me. How do i indiscreetly seperate myself from her company without her noticing too much?
That's a question from another thread, which I will now answer below.
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Post by elysium on Oct 27, 2003 9:02:08 GMT -5
There are some people who will always "milk it for all it's worth". It's seems to me that your friend is using her disability and her family problems to make you feel sorry for her. On the other hand, maybe she's just really really lonely. In either situation, there are a lot of ways you could deal with this friend of yours. If you have an activity that you like and that takes up your time, do that instead and tell her you're busy. Or tell her you need to spend more time with your other friends because they need you, or that your parents want you home more often. The best thing you can do is to find her another friend. It doesn't have to be someone you like, just someone who would like her. Everyone needs friends, no matter how annoying they are. If none of the above work, you need to tell her straight out that you're uncomfortable with her following you all the time. If you feel threatened by her age, you should tell someone. Just remember not to hurt her feelings until you have to to make her see the point.
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Post by GreeneyedLilyEvans on Oct 27, 2003 21:55:36 GMT -5
thanks much!
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Post by elysium on Nov 13, 2003 17:27:06 GMT -5
I'm getting bored over here; no one needs advice anymore.
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Post by meatnmilk on Nov 15, 2003 0:50:18 GMT -5
LOL...thats your own fault- you are a victim of your own success, your good advice has already solved all our problems...imagine what you could do if you moved up to "world peace"! ;D anyhow hang on in there....Problems are just like bills, there'll always be more!
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Post by elysium on Nov 15, 2003 17:17:19 GMT -5
LOL it's kinda funny because when I first started I had about 3 a day and I barely had time to answer them all, now I have none. I bet you anything that when I finally get some more questions, it'll be in truckloads.
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Post by HPF on Nov 17, 2003 16:05:42 GMT -5
Sorry Elysium, I don't need anymore advice, but your last lot to me worked out great. Thanks.
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Post by HikariHeart on Nov 17, 2003 16:18:44 GMT -5
There is something wrong at my school. Most people know about it, but keep their mouths shut, because this thing doesn't happen.
And if you say it does happen, then people just think you are something you most likely not.
I wouldn't it be so worried about it if it was just happening with my fellow classmates, but its in the admin and the staff too.
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It isn't that big of a deal yet, just a few detentions there, a few officer referal's here.
Nothing that overly...arrogant. I guess.
This post sounds stupid, I know.
But when I wrote what the problem was, I even thought I sounded like an arrogant b*stard.
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So basically heres my problem: my school is having prejudice problems that aren't the normal kind, no one's doing a thing, it's this - close to becoming a big problem, and even if some says something, they'll automatically be labeled as a idiot, and be ignored.
So...what should I do?
And did I make any sense?
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Post by elysium on Nov 19, 2003 18:59:57 GMT -5
It's not stupid. It's excellent that you're concerned about these things. Predjudice is a very real, very cruel thing. You should definitely speak out, especially if the administration is involved. About the kids having predjudice, the sad part is that will probably never go away. But, there is something you can do about people being treated unfairly.
Probably the most influential people on a school are the tax-payers. And who are they? The parents. The thing is, the kids that are getting discriminated against probably haven't even told their parents. You should have your parents and any other concerned ones contact all of the others and see how everyone else feels about this. Start a petition, arrange a meeting with the principal. If you're thinking that will never work, think again; last year I had a big problem with one of my teachers, and my mom arranged for a lot of the other parents to all come in and surprise the Administration with a group complaint. The teacher was immediately reviewed before the school board, and they fired him. If you can get the parents to scare the school, they'll back off and make some changes. Better yet, start a letter campaign to the State school board. Write to racially diverse politicians who know what it's like to be discriminated against. Don't be afraid to make some noise; that's the only way you're gonna be heard.
If they're still not backing down, hold a protest. It's really cool. You have to rally your supporters and make demands. Remember, strength in numbers.
The student predjudice is the hard part. You see, some schools came up with this really good idea to stop homosexual predjudice. They started the gay-straight alliance, a group that unites hetero- and homosexuals and makes others see that it's ok to be different. There are groups who do the same for race. You could ask permission to start one at your school. If they refuse, appeal to the State. Your school will give in so fast, you won't even realize what's happened.
Remember that one person can change the world, so one person can definitely make a difference in your area. Keep fighting these racist jerks until you find a way to defeat them.
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Post by HPF on Nov 20, 2003 11:43:47 GMT -5
Okay, I got a problem now.
I've got two best friends, and we've all been best friends for years, only now the two of them are fighting. I don't know what to do. I've only heard one side of the story, and whenever I try to get the other half from my other best friend, she just tells me to shut up and then changes the subject. I don't want to be caught in the middle of their fight, and I don't want to have to choose one friend over the other. They're fight has even started annoying everyone else, and when one of them tries to make it up the other refuses. They've never really fought before, and I'm getting worried that our friendship might not survive. What should I do???
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Post by elysium on Nov 20, 2003 17:03:54 GMT -5
Since they're your two best friends, I'd say they probably owe you an explanation. But, if it's a personal matter, it may be best if they work it out themselves. Most importantly, try not getting caught in the middle. If you're friend won't tell you her side of the story, that makes me think she feels guilty about it. Maybe if you could somehow force them to talk, they'd work it out.
Here's what I'd do: Trick them into meeting you somewhere, sit them both down, and tell them that they're behaving like children and that everyone is sick of their bickering. Ask them what the heck they're problem is. At this age, I wouldn't be surprised if it was something superficial.
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Post by HPF on Nov 21, 2003 11:29:44 GMT -5
Thanks Elysium. That should work.
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