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Post by amiphist on Jun 18, 2004 8:04:58 GMT -5
lol,, i'll tell you on monday what punishment they got, if my teacher doesn't forget
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Post by PuppyDawg on Jun 18, 2004 11:06:47 GMT -5
*cracks knuckles* oooh... they better not forget!
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Post by amiphist on Jun 21, 2004 4:24:38 GMT -5
they forgot
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Post by ConfuzedNDazed on Jun 21, 2004 6:56:49 GMT -5
Ami, Ill come an destroy them. Then we can hang out in my non existant pool. THen you can brag about how you spent a dayw ith someone whos older then you. Not that id matter bc your bullies would be 'gone'. mah.
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Post by amiphist on Jun 21, 2004 7:41:40 GMT -5
lol, that'd be so funny if i said CnD's going to kill you thren we're having a pool party to them ;D
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Post by elysium on Jun 21, 2004 9:37:20 GMT -5
You're doing this just to squick me, aren't you Matt?
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Post by amiphist on Jun 21, 2004 9:39:18 GMT -5
hey, this is about me not CnD
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Post by Ginny Potter on Jun 21, 2004 22:12:07 GMT -5
You're doing this just to squick me, aren't you Matt? wow...elys, never thought you'd sink that low... just kidding, mattie pooh
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Post by ConfuzedNDazed on Jun 22, 2004 12:29:50 GMT -5
Squick? And i dont even know where Ami lives, but those details can be taken care of. And i would think that girls would want a guy who could sit through a musical and not fall asleep, a guy who upheld the girls honor...but ig uess not. Like ive said before...i have higher standards. But i love you all!
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Post by PetitePirate on Jun 22, 2004 12:52:03 GMT -5
sit through a musical...i feel special, i know what you're talking about ;D
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Post by meatnmilk on Jun 23, 2004 1:42:56 GMT -5
Amiphist, you say this is a long-term thing (ie not something that has just cropped up) - honey you need to figure out what their problem with you is....
really think about it, clearly if you feel picked on, you have been set apart (ie it is you who is treated like this, not everyone). There is a reason.
It is really important you figure out why it is happening. Most obviously because it is marginally possible you may be able to do something about it. More importantly if you understand why, this understanding may help to shield you from the negative impact. Possibly both may apply.
I would suggest that if you cant work out what the problem is, you consult with someone older (you can PM me if you like for instance), to try to work out what is going on. I notice that you asked one of the girls, and she didnt reply (aside from the ultra tacky, crass low class spiting....), this indicates that the problem is likely to be not something you have done or said, but rather a 'point of difference' that has come to your peer's attention....it could be something as silly as your mother putting you in the wrong dress the first day of school, and the whole 'odd one out' has stuck.....even if that is the case, at least you'll know the problem was the dress and not some deficiency on your part.
I really cant comment without knowing more, but I do have my suspicions as to what the cause is. Pm me if you wish to discuss this.
I do suggest that you try to work your way through the why....whatever the reason is, it is better to know (it is likely to either be mundane and not particulary to do with you personally ie what you wore your first day at school, or in fact a useful trait that sets you apart and singles you out, but which you will later in life be very grateful for and proud of. How many rich and famous people do you know who are average and ordinary? Being set apart at your age can be painful, but for most 'self-made' people it is in fact the corner-stone of their success.
One thing - as long as you dont know why, there is the tendancy to question yourself ie 'why me, what is wrong with me, how come everyone's getting on ok but me, what is it about me, why cant I be 'normal' like everyone else?', etc - a killer for your self-esteem, and eventually this can aggrevate the problem, if you expect to be picked on you will behave a certain way, and this can cause you to be picked on, then you will expect to be picked on and behave a certain way, so you will get picked on so you will expect to be picked on etc....
Although it must have something to do with you (since it is happening to you) the reason is either not as personal as you might perceive (ie the clothes you wore back when your mother was picking your outfits), or if it is, (about you personally, who and what you are) it is likely to be something that is not actually negative aside from the reaction it is getting from your current peers.
If you really cant figure out what is going on and why, PM and I can help you work it out.
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Post by elysium on Jun 24, 2004 18:26:01 GMT -5
I'd have to say, talking to MnM might be the best thing. I really am stumped on this one. I go to such a small school, that teasing isn't really a big problem because everyone has relatives to stand up for them. Everyone is real clannish with their families, and all the families know each other so well their kids get on very well. And, although I've had malicious rumors spread about me, they usually die down by the next day, because people know my character so well here (that can happen when there are only 300 teenagers in a school). In this case, I know when my advice is no longer helpful (as I don't know how to deal with a thing like this) and suggest you try talking to one of the girls offering help. That's my perscription.
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Post by bad friend on Jun 24, 2004 23:20:38 GMT -5
I feel like a bad friend. I just had a big fight with her, and she's not talking to me. I feel like it was all my fault-her morning was horrible, her grandpa was in the hospital, dying. And then I had to go have a fight with her.
I was telling her that she always is so self centered and mean to people, and I told her that that's what I really think about her. Now I realize I don't and I keep trying to talk to her about it, but she just won't listen. I called her and said my name, and she just hung up. I talked to my other friends to talk to her, but she won't listen. I feel really bad about it. We've been fighting for about a week now, and her grandpa might only live for a few more days, so I sent her flowers because she was really sad at school(yes I have school this late in the year) and I wanted to cheer her up and hoping we could be friends again. But she's not listening. How do I get her to listen? And I just heard that the day we had a fight her mom's friend that she was close to was also in the hospital. How do I make her feel better and become friends with her again?
~I'm a bad friend.
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Post by elysium on Jun 25, 2004 10:28:46 GMT -5
If your friend is a good friend, she will understand. I can understand her hanging up the phone; she's going through a lot, and the last thing she needed was you calling her up and harping on her again like she may have thought you were going to do. Just wait a while, until things die down a bit. Believe me, I know how she feels, and she's probably feeling extremely defensive right now, just wanting to get away from any stress, and that means your rocky friendship. Don't worry about it; if you keep trying and showing her you care, she will eventually want to talk again. Just don't give up on her, and let her know you're there for her.
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Post by amiphist on Jun 25, 2004 14:35:46 GMT -5
Amiphist, you say this is a long-term thing (ie not something that has just cropped up) - honey you need to figure out what their problem with you is.... really think about it, clearly if you feel picked on, you have been set apart (ie it is you who is treated like this, not everyone). There is a reason. It is really important you figure out why it is happening. Most obviously because it is marginally possible you may be able to do something about it. More importantly if you understand why, this understanding may help to shield you from the negative impact. Possibly both may apply. I would suggest that if you cant work out what the problem is, you consult with someone older (you can PM me if you like for instance), to try to work out what is going on. I notice that you asked one of the girls, and she didnt reply (aside from the ultra tacky, crass low class spiting....), this indicates that the problem is likely to be not something you have done or said, but rather a 'point of difference' that has come to your peer's attention....it could be something as silly as your mother putting you in the wrong dress the first day of school, and the whole 'odd one out' has stuck.....even if that is the case, at least you'll know the problem was the dress and not some deficiency on your part. I really cant comment without knowing more, but I do have my suspicions as to what the cause is. Pm me if you wish to discuss this. I do suggest that you try to work your way through the why....whatever the reason is, it is better to know (it is likely to either be mundane and not particulary to do with you personally ie what you wore your first day at school, or in fact a useful trait that sets you apart and singles you out, but which you will later in life be very grateful for and proud of. How many rich and famous people do you know who are average and ordinary? Being set apart at your age can be painful, but for most 'self-made' people it is in fact the corner-stone of their success. One thing - as long as you dont know why, there is the tendancy to question yourself ie 'why me, what is wrong with me, how come everyone's getting on ok but me, what is it about me, why cant I be 'normal' like everyone else?', etc - a killer for your self-esteem, and eventually this can aggrevate the problem, if you expect to be picked on you will behave a certain way, and this can cause you to be picked on, then you will expect to be picked on and behave a certain way, so you will get picked on so you will expect to be picked on etc.... Although it must have something to do with you (since it is happening to you) the reason is either not as personal as you might perceive (ie the clothes you wore back when your mother was picking your outfits), or if it is, (about you personally, who and what you are) it is likely to be something that is not actually negative aside from the reaction it is getting from your current peers. If you really cant figure out what is going on and why, PM and I can help you work it out. thanks MnM, now that i think about it, i everyone was all nicely paired off in my school, then i started in year two, and was the only one without the partner all the time, maybe that's it, i honestly don't know what else it can be, i always try to be nice too them. they went to another extreme on tuesday, about a dozen of them followed me home and were all pushing me and oulling my hair, and the worst of it was that my best friend was one of them
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