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Post by PetitePirate on Jun 5, 2004 10:15:39 GMT -5
you're very welcome.
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Post by amiphist on Jun 10, 2004 4:14:29 GMT -5
sorry to send in another problem but,
at the moment in school everybody hates me, they hurl abuse at me or throw things at me all the time, the teachers know, but aren't doing anything to stop it, and the worst part is y 'friend' encourages them, and pretends to be my best friend
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Post by elysium on Jun 10, 2004 4:30:42 GMT -5
Don't ever apologize for asking advice, that's my job!
That's terrible, Ami. No one has the right to do that to you. Before you do anything, tell off your so-called friend. Hell, if you want help, I'll tell you what to say over IM; I'm good at diatribes lol.
The fact that the teachers do nothing is disgusting; there was a boy in one of my classes who got treated like that, and the teachers did nothing. If it's seriously affecting your schoolwork, you definitely need to talk to your parents and your principal/headmaster, whatever you have over there. At your age, when dealing with this sort of thing your best allies are your parents. It might be embarrassing to have to admit to them that people treat you that way, but you don't deserve it. Talk to them, ask them to talk to your head and get this straightened out. The truth is, teachers and staff are deathly afraid of parents; if the parents report them to the board of education, they're screwed, to put it mildly. So don't hesitate to use your parents as a force.
About everyone hating you, the sad truth is that most of them are probably only doing this to go along with everyone else, not because they hate you. It's sad, but people will do anything to get others to like them, or form a scapegoat to make themselves feel better. But don't think that it has anything to do with you personally, you're a good person who got stuck being the scapegoat. The best thing you can do is stand up for yourself, and ignore them if you think you might get in trouble for retaliating. Kids are fickle; in a month, they may not even hate you anymore. Just don't let them know how much it bothers you, mind your own business.
I'm certain this will all blow over; if you think there's a reason for it, try talking it over with whoever is at the center of this. A simple, "Why are you so cruel?" usually gets a confused, remorseful reaction and majorly cuts down harrassment. Just remember that you don't deserve this treatment, and you have every right to do something about it.
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Post by amiphist on Jun 10, 2004 4:57:27 GMT -5
i have asked them why they are so horrible, and she spat on my shoe and walked away, you say it'll blow over, since infant school every one has been horrible to me. my parents just say ignore them, i do, but it's hard when they're throwing things at you
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Post by elysium on Jun 10, 2004 5:03:48 GMT -5
Ah, I thought it was something that just started. Well, I had this problem when I first came to my school, and I had to punch a guy. After that no one bothered me, and eventually I got to know the other kids and got along with them better. Now, I'm not saying you should punch anyone, but you've got a brother, right? I've had to go tell off some bullies for Collin loads of times, maybe if you ask your brother he'll help you. At any rate, I'd still go to the Head and talk to him/her about this. Make some noise, Ami, have those marches taught you nothing?
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Post by amiphist on Jun 10, 2004 5:29:24 GMT -5
lol, it has got alot worse recently, and my bro is away at the moment
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Post by elysium on Jun 10, 2004 6:19:56 GMT -5
If I could Apparate, I'd come over and intimidate them for you. I mean, I'm not very intimidating, but to a bunch of year olds. *sigh*. All I can tell you is, don't let em get you down. It's easy for me, because I'm a practiced arguer, but, well, just say what's on your mind, no more, no less. Remember, I still love ya.
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Post by amiphist on Jun 10, 2004 6:42:43 GMT -5
lol, i kinda feel better just telling you about it, i haven't ever told another child just how much it bothers me, i normally pretend i don't care
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Post by PuppyDawg on Jun 10, 2004 12:03:41 GMT -5
I have a question, Ami. If your friend is egging them on, is she/he really a friend? Why don't you confront her, because if she considers herself your "best friend" asking her what the hell is going on might put things in perspective.
And Ami, you can't ignore it. If people are throwing stuff at you, it's unavoidable.
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Post by elysium on Jun 10, 2004 14:46:46 GMT -5
Um...I said the exact same thing.
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Post by HikariHeart on Jun 10, 2004 15:02:24 GMT -5
Hey, tell us what school you go to, and we can all march down there and intimadte them for you.
If it makes you feel any better, stuff gets thrown at me too. My friends egg them on...except for a different reason than yours. My friends tend to taunt those who taunt them.
Actually, one time, D raised his hand in the middle of a class and told the teacher to actually do something about or he'll report her for neglecting to do her duty.
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I know, not exactly the exact same position, but thought you liked to know you aren't the only one who gets stuff thrown at them.
One time I stuck ice cream in one kids hair because he kept on throwing stuff at me.
Right.
Follow elysium's advice. Also, do you go to a public or private school?
If you go to a public school, the next time you're at launch, look around the cafeteria. There's going to be others teenagers sitting by them lonsome. Sit with them. Talk to them.
If you go to a private school....uum...I've never been to one, but I'm going to assume its the exact same.
Now I'm leaving before elysium starts getting over protective of her advice collumn..
Ja ne.
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Post by elysium on Jun 10, 2004 15:09:41 GMT -5
Oh, I'm not THAT protective of it...but I appreciate it, because this is one situation I only dealt with briefly, and I got out of it partly because I threatened to majorly kick the asses of everyone who taunted me (I was the tallest in the grade back then) and partly because the principal was my cousin. However, I still have people that spread nasty rumors about me, but usually the guys practically kill them anyways, so I don't really worry about it too much. And Kari's right; there are always other kids who no one else likes. One of the nicest people I know pretty well has me for his only friend. I try persuading other people to get to know him, but they care more about their little cliques than someone else's feelings, surprise surprise. Just hold your head up, Ami, and do whatever you need to.
Remember: Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.
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Post by amiphist on Jun 11, 2004 3:16:23 GMT -5
things have got to the worst ever now, i could kinda take them calling me names, i didn't like it, but i could deal with it, but now, they are taunting me about my cousin who comitted suicide, i spent all day crying, and pretending it was hayfever
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Post by elysium on Jun 11, 2004 3:19:47 GMT -5
They did that?? I want to kick their asses soooo badly...Damn it, that makes me so mad. I don't know what to say to you though, but really, your mum should understand of all people about wanting to change things, and doing something about them. Try talking to her again, except this time tell her everything, and ask her how she would feel if she couldn't march against the things that make her angry, or protest. Just ask her that.
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Post by amiphist on Jun 11, 2004 3:22:27 GMT -5
i did kick one's ass, it didn't help. and thanks elys, when my mum get's back from london i will ask her
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